17 Jan

"Casual Sex Is a Con"

Category: Sound Thinking
By: Amy L. Graeser
Published: 01/17/07

Living chastely in today's culture is made especially challenging by confusion in conventional thinking about sexuality, sex, and marriage. For example, the message is widespread that casual sex is beneficial for everyone involved. In an article published in the Times Online, author Dawn Eden argues that such is not the case at least for women and introduces her recently published book on the subject, The Thrill of the Chaste: Finding Fulfillment While Keeping Your Clothes On. In the article, "Casual Sex Is a Con: Women Just Aren't Like Men," she notes that the Sixties generation made "free love" socially acceptable and that following generations have been reaping the painful consequences. Eden writes: "Whatever [Germaine] Greer and her ilk might say I've tried their philosophy—that a woman can shag like a man—and it doesn't work. We're not built like that. Women are built for bonding. . . . however much we try and convince ourselves that it isn't so, sex will always leave us feeling empty unless we are certain that we are loved, that the act is part of a bigger picture that we are loved for our whole selves not just our bodies."

Sex, feminism, chastity, modesty, courtship, and love are all subjects addressed on the MARS HILL AUDIO Journal. Previous conversation partners include Wendy Shalit, the late Elizabeth Fox-Genovese, and Amy and Leon Kass. [Posted January 2007, ALG]